The most effective way to do it, is to do it.
I can, therefore I am.
You never know what motivates you.
To be a good loser is to learn how to win.
Never complain and never explain.
By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.
If you're going through hell, keep going.
The wise does at once what the fool does at last.
Leap, and the net will appear.
Well done is better than well said.
Perhaps, all writers walk such a line. In general - as we all do in our dreams - I believe I put something of myself into all the characters in my novels, male as well as female.